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New blog site.


Hi! FYI, I will be removing this blog site as of December 31, 2010. (Or somewhere around that time, anyway.)

You can follow my new blog at: Hello, My Name Is Mom.

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I’m a mom of many; not a nutcase!


I want to know why it is perfectly acceptable for strangers, family, and friends to trash our family size. I wouldn’t dream of going up to someone who has chosen to remain childless, and saying, “Whaaat!!! OMG, I could NOT do that!” or “Oh, no way! You MUST have a child”. Likewise to those people that have one or two children. You won’t hear me running my mouth about how you should have at least one more. It is RUDE. It is classless. It is completely distasteful for anyone to make a comment regarding the family size a couple chooses to settle upon.

Also rude, tactless, and offensive are quips meant to be funny like, “Don’t you have cable?” or “they make a pill for that now” or “Gee, I don’t know how you do it all, with all those rugrats running around” or (my LEAST favorite) “Are you always gonna be pregnant & barefoot?”.

Seriously??!

Apparently Emily Post did NOT visit the homes of these people.

Specifically, this means that “well-meaning” strangers, family, and friends shouldn’t be so hyper critical of MY family size. Bluntly, it is none of your business if we are having another. And, furthermore, it is nobody’s business if we want to have 2 more, adopt 4 kids, or do foster care for 100.

Well-meaning or not. It’s still not acceptable for anyone to say to me, “Oh, I hope you don’t have anymore!” or “You’re not pregnant again, are you?”.  Maybe some people don’t realize how much that hurts. It feels like a slap in the face, as if we are such horrible parents that we shouldn’t be allowed the joy of another child to nurture. We are far from perfect– as any parent would admit to. But we ARE good parents.

Frankly, I never imagined I would have more than a single child. But now I have five, and I love each & every one of them, every single little ounce. They are the best things I have ever, or will ever, do with my life. And, I will admit, I WANT another baby. I WANT to adopt or do foster care. We are waiting for financial reasons, but eventually I will have another child to hold in my arms.

Which leads me to my next point… What is SO WRONG about large families? Children always have someone to play with. If you don’t get along with sibling #1, turn to sibling #2. When we’re all older, the children have built in best friends. Their children will have multitudes of cousins. Imagine holiday dinners! Yes, the money has to go further. Yes, they share a bedroom. Yes, the laundry piles up, I have bad days, and wonder how I will make it through. But in the end, it is MORE than worth it.

And just so you’re all aware… We aren’t trying to beat out the Duggar family. We aren’t followers of the quiverful movement (not that there is anything wrong with that, if that is what a family choses). Don’t worry; we won’t hit you up to buy extra Christmas presents or birthday gifts.

So please, even if you are “well-meaning”, your words cut like a knife to a mother whose children mean everything to her. Don’t make off-the-cuff remarks about our reproduction choices, because the stick in my brain as snide insults directed at my parenting abilities.

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Yep, it’s that time again. 5 more. Yay!


20) The bit of crafty-ness I have in me. It calms me down & cheers me up when I see a project I’ve been envisioning come to light.

21) Chocolate, wine, sleeping in. ‘Nuf said.

22) Artificial (read: fake) Christmas trees. No needles, no mold spores, no allergies, no mess. And I can set it up a week before Thanksgiving!

23) My sister. November 23 is her birthday. She’s my best friend & worst enemy, all rolled into one. She can get under my skin like nobodies business, but I have her back, and she has mine. Love her!

24) (Because it’s technically the 24th in Central time) That my mom knows how to use Facebook. Now she can stop bugging me for pictures of her grandkids. Ha. Just kidding.

 

 

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Six More Things I’m Thankful For


14) I am amazingly thankful for E-MEALZ Easy Meals for Busy and Frugal Families. Because I used to spend every Thursday pouring over grocery ads & coupons in the paper and online. I used to spend an hour planning out a menu that would utilize the foods that were on sale. Because I used to toss the menu out the window & take everyone out to eat because it was stuff we didn’t want to eat anyway. NO MORE. Thanks to the E-MEALZ Easy Meals for Busy and Frugal Families website, we ate dinner at home every day this week. We didn’t go out to lunch once, because we had leftovers. And, we didn’t throw money away by not using food we purchased. Best of all– NO COUPON CUTTING! And you can pick from a variety of stores/menu plans/health options. I’m sold! Check it out.

 

15) My legs. I realized last night how awesome it is that I have a mode of transportation built into me. Simple, yeah. But impressive design on God‘s part. You don’t even have to think. You just make up your mind to go somewhere, and they do all the work. I used to hate my muscular legs, and wish I had the slight, thin build of some of the other girls I knew. Now, I’m glad I can keep up at work & run a mile. Yep.

 

16) Modern heat sources. I’ve lived with a woodstove/fireplace as my main heat source. I’m eternally grateful that I have the ability to walk over, push a button, and have my house heat to 74ºf in 10 minutes. I don’t tolerate cold well, and this time of year in Iowa is frigid. (Yeah, I know it gets worse. Shush.) You can find me camping out over a furnace vent, knitting.

 

17) Skype. I love being able to talk to people I love that are hundreds of miles away, for free, whenever I want. It’s genius. It’s awesome. It’s wonderful!

 

18 )New socks. ‘nuf said.

 

19) My smart, motivated daughters. Like any other kids, they procrastinate with cleaning their rooms or doing chores. But ever since I started working, they have really stepped it up in the mornings. My oldest helps take care of my toddler while I sleep in. They both jump on the ball & start working on their homeschool tasks without being asked, and usually finish it with minimal interruptions. I am so thankful to see them really enjoying learning again, and not just doing it because ‘they hafta’. They usually go beyond what I’ve instructed them to do, just for the love of learning. It’s incredible.

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Three more Thankful Thoughts


Yeah, I’m a slacker-blogger. Three days late on that “tomorrow’ post.  What can I say? Kids, work, homeschooling, & the hubs are a higher priority lately. Ok, enough drab blather. The three things:

11) The level of patience that was bestowed to my husband. I wish I could bottle it up, then drink it. Thank God he balances me out so well, because I happen to be extremely, ridiculously, insanely a little impatient.

12) My families long line of military. I’m proud to come from a solider dad, grandfathers, uncles, cousins, and more. I am SO thankful for everyone of our brave soldiers, doing what the rest of don’t have the  courage to do. THANK YOU.

13) Our landlords. Yes, we’re renting, but we can do pretty much anything with the house & yard. Except for a tear down/remodel, obviously. My bedroom is turquoise, and I love it.

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30 Days of Thankful


It’s November, the month of Thanksgiving. It’s a good opportunity to recognize all the things I appreciate, but never really mention. And it’s a GREAT opportunity to not complain for 30 days, but rather to boast about what I DO have.  I’m a little behind, apparently. 10 days behind, 10 posts behind, 10 “thank yous” behind. So here goes.

1) To be alive! This should be first on everyones list, right?

2) I’m thankful for God, Jesus, heaven, and earth. (Hell, notsomuch.)

3) My kids. Each & every one of them.There is no such thing as a ‘mistake’ when it comes to kids.

4) My husband, the person I love most & deserve the least.

5) For my job, for my husbands jobs. There are many still searching.

6) Our house, our cars, our furniture, and other meaningless possessions.

7) Starbucks. ‘Nuf said.

8) Being able & willing to homeschool. You don’t have to agree, but it works for us.

9) Modern conveniences. I need a shower, my Android, and internet daily. NEED, I say.

10) The allergist who nailed down Parker’s food sensitivities.

Another to come, tomorrow. Meanwhile, be thankful!

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